Resolving Conflicts — "The quick Method" (3-6)


  • To introduce the basics of conflict resolution
  • To guide the children to understand the benefits of resolving conflicts peacefully.


  • Clipboard
  • Chart of Quick "Win/Win"
  • Large blank chart paper and marker

Quick Win/Win

  1. Cool off
  2. "I Message"
  3. Brainstorm solutions
  4. Affirm, forgive, thank


  1. Introduce the lesson by staging a conflict with another staff person over an unreturned book. Have the other person storm out.
  2. Students will respond. Ask for suggestions as to how to work out the conflict. Elicit as man ideas as possible. List them on large chart page)
  3. Let the children know that what they just saw was a staged conflict. Say, "In our class this year, when we have a problem with another person, instead of becoming enemies we are going to try to work things out."
  4. Say, "I am going to teach you a quick way to work conflicts out. Later in our peacemaking program you will learn to work problems out in more detail." (Go over chart with class. Emphasize "I Messages." Give examples of it.)
  5. Listen to conflicts the children have had and have students play act with the "quick method."
  6. Say, "When you have conflict that you can't seem to resolve yourself and I'm busy, you can list them on our clipboard. [Show, and tell where it will hang.] You list the date, the names of the people involved, and briefly describe the problem. Include your signature. A number of times a week, I'll take the clipboard problems and we will help each other as a group to work them out."
  7. Say, "What would our class be like if everybody was willing to talk and work out their problems?"
  8. Say, "What would the world be like if government leaders did the same?"


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