Special Issue:
Celebrating the Legacy
of Martin Luther King

The Peaceful Parenting Newsletter
Issue #12
A free e-mail newsletter from Naomi Drew

I have a dream...
I have a dream that one day little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.
I have a dream today.
•Martin Luther King Jr.

Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek,
but a means by which we arrive at that goal.
•Martin Luther King Jr.

Dear Friends,
In honor of Martin Luther King Day please enjoy this list of virtues that correspond with the Dr. King’s teachings. This list, which I’ve condensed slightly, was put together by the Do for their Kindness and Justice Challenge. It is way to celebrate Dr. King’s work and help people act on his visions. My thanks to Susan Albert of the Coalition for Peace Action for passing this on to me to share with you.

Please discuss these virtues with your family and see how they can apply to all of your lives. Beneath each virtue is an affirmation you can teach to your children and begin saying yourself. Copy these affirmations and hang them up around your house to keep Dr. King’s spirit alive every day of the year

May we all keep his vision live through our words, actions, and courage.

Virtues to Live By In Celebration of Martin Luther King Day

Empowerment: The strength to imagine something positive and make it happen; educating oneself to gain the tools and skills needed to help make a vision become a reality. A person can practice empowerment around a certain issue or problem (equal rights for all, community change) or in a certain place (school, with friends, in the world).

I am empowered when I undertake a goal of doing something I believe in, and I take the time to learn as much as I can that will help me reach that

Courage: Mental or moral strength to withstand difficulty, fear, or danger; the willingness to act on beliefs despite the challenges. It takes courage to start something new, to speak up for ourselves or for someone else, or to be strong when something makes us feel sad, tired, or scared.

I show courage when I start something new like a class or project. I show
courage when I express my beliefs, even if they are not the same as everyone else’s.

Inclusion: Including people from all different backgrounds and communities in our work or daily life; reaching out to others despite their differences. Inclusion means showing a genuine interest in reaching out to, and working with, others

I am practicing inclusion when I ask a new student to join our group at
lunch, or when I visit an elderly neighbor to show that I care. I am
accepting of the people I reach out to, and do not limit who I connect with
based on their background, ethnicity, or other characteristic.

Tolerance: Being sensitive to different types of people and situations, even if they are different from what we are familiar with. When we are tolerant, we take the time to get to know others and try to see things from their perspective.

I am tolerant when I am respectful and courteous to someone else, even if
they are different from me. I try to understand others before making judgments about who they are.

Nonviolence: Achieving results with words and actions, not physical force or violence directed at someone. Dr. King believed that nonviolent resistance was a method of standing up for what one believes without using violence. He viewed this method as being nonaggressive physically, but very aggressive spiritually. Having tolerance often affects whether we choose to act violently or nonviolently in whatever situation we are faced with.

I am nonviolent when I find alternate ways to handle my emotions instead of hitting or yelling, even if I am tempted to do so. I am nonviolent when I keep my cool in difficult situations.

Respect: Recognizing and honoring the rights and dignity of others, and
acting in a way that shows them we feel this way. Respect means being
considerate, polite, well-mannered and courteous to others in our daily

I show respect when I say please and thank you to others and address
them appropriately I am respectful when I treat my friends, family, and strangers with dignity and kindness.

Open-mindedness: Setting aside previous prejudices and opinions in order to learn and experience new things, meet new people, and adapt to new circumstances.

I am open-minded when I agree to join a friend at an event I have never
been to before. I am open-minded when I ask a student I
do not know to have lunch with me, or when I volunteer at a homeless shelter even though I may not feel comfortable at first. I am open-minded when I listen to those whose opinions are different than mine.

Responsibility: Being dependable and doing what is expected; making good decisions and accepting the consequences of our actions. Responsibility means being held accountable to ourselves and others, and knowing the decisions we make and actions we take affect not only us, but
those around us too.

I am responsible when I come forward and admit that I broke something even if no one saw me. I am responsible when I think about all the possible
outcomes for my actions, and how they might affect me and those around me.

Perseverance: Continuing with something even though challenges or obstacles may arise. Perseverance, or follow-through,is the act of completing something we have started or sticking with a
thought or idea (such as promising to remain strong during a tough situation in life).

I persevere when I finish studying writing , even though I am tired and would rather stop. I practice perseverance when I follow-through with something I agree to do, even if I have promised it only to myself and no one else has heard.

What are some other ways you can keep alive the dream of Martin Luther King. Now more than ever we need for all of us to live by the belief Dr. King so courageously shared. May his vision live on through each of us.

The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate drive out hate; only love can do that.

Dr. Martin Luther King
Websites That Will Help You Make a Difference:

Do Something

This is the organization that sponsors the Kindness and Justice Challenge that the above list of virtues comes from. Great website!

Teaching Tolerance

Encourages people from all walks of life to fight hate and promote tolerance.
Their mission is to educate people about hate and intolerance and help combat them in homes, schools, businesses and communities. This website has special sections for parents, teachers, and kids.

Network For Good
www.networkforgood -
This website helps you volunteer, speak out, donate, and make a difference in a variety of areas including the environment, education, health, human services, peace and other international issues.

People for Peace
This is a website for kids. It includes stories and activities on creating more peace in communities, schools and the world.

TeenHoopla Activism Page
For teens who really want to make a difference. This site has lots of great links to organizations and activities.

Martin Luther King, Jr. Day On the Net
This website has the story of Martin Luther King’s life and the full text of his “I have a Dream speech.

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Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids (Kensington Publishers)
Learning the Skills of Peacemaking (Jalmar Press)
The Peaceful Classroom in Action (Jalmar Press)

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Love and Peace to All of You.


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