Letting Go, Moving Forward
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Each day is a new life. Each moment is really a new life. What we call memories are really present thoughts. What we call anticipations are really present thoughts. No one has ever lived in any moment except the present. To know this is the door to freedom.
As summer draws to an end, this is a wonderful time to reflect and regroup. The beginning of the new school year always seems like a time of renewal and new opportunities. Our children start each year filled with new possibilities, and in a sense, so do we. The changing colors of autumn become a visual reminder of the dynamic nature of change and the ever-evolving cycles of life. What a perfect time to start thinking about how we want this upcoming year to be. Rather than allowing circumstances to lead us, we can take the lead by determining what our vision for the year is and then moving toward it.
Take a moment to ask yourself this question: As the new school year begins what old patterns do I want to leave behind, and what new vision do I want to move toward?
As the quote above says, no one has ever lived in any moment except the present. Yet, too often we let the past determine our lives. We sometimes revert to old behaviors, thoughts, and ways of being that would be better left behind. Imagine what your life would be like if you could let go of patterns that no longer serve you, and create a fresh new vision in their stead.
Imagine the possibility of being intentional about what you want to let go of, living your life and parenting your children guided by a vision you create rather than by past patterns. Imagine teaching your children to do this as well -- enabling them to live lives fueled by the power of their visions. Below you will find some specific exercises to help you do this. I urge you to take a few moments to complete the exercises. From my own experience I can assure you, the power of vision is infinite.
Love and blessings,
Letting Go, Moving Forward
Am I willing to give up what I have in order to be what I am not yet?
The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their minds.
Is there a pattern of thought or action that interferes with your happiness or with the way you relate to your family. Ask yourself this question: Am I willing to let go of that pattern? Willingness and the belief in your own capacity to make changes is the beginning.
Ask your children the same question -- is there a pattern of negative thought or action that they might be willing to let go of. Very often self-defeating behaviors start in the mind. We see ourselves and our capabilities in a particular way, and feel locked in. Yet patterns are rarely permanent and every day is an opportunity to change.
I invite you to try the exercises below. They will enable you to disentangle from patterns you want to leave behind, and move closer to what you really want .
Step 1: Go to a a quiet spot, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Picture the year ahead and imagine it turning out as you would most want it to be. Let the vision flow, and if the voice of negativity arises, let it pass. Then return to the vision.
Imagine your life and the lives of your children in a positive and peaceful flow. Indulge in the vision and allow it to fully take shape. On a piece of paper write down what you envisioned. This is critical, so please avoid the urge to skip this part.
Step 2: Now ask yourself this question - What would I need to give up to have this vision manifest?
When I first did this exercise I realized that I needed to give up my belief that my vision could not happen. It was my negative belief system that stood in the way more than any set of concrete circumstances. The more I let go of those negative beliefs, the more my visions started to manifest.
Now write down what you are willing to give up. Suspend disbelief for a moment, and imagine what it would be like to actually let go of what you want to let go of.
Step 3: Now take a look at the vision you wrote about in step 1. Write down three actions you can take to start making it real. Post you vision and the steps you will take in a spot where you can see them every night before you go to bed and every morning when you awaken.
Step 4: Read your vision statement before going to sleep each night, and then, as you drift off to sleep, picture it manifesting. Envision every detail in as much clarity as possible. Again, if negative thoughts intrude, avoid focusing on them and bring yourself back to the vision.
Step 5: Teach your children all of these steps.
This is how peace happens within each of us. The process starts when we give up old patterns and embrace new ones -- when we allow ourself the freedom to envision. Consider starting this school year with faith in the possibility that we each have the power to manifest our visions and live peaceful lives. The journey to peace begins with the vision.
Good luck, and know that I will be doing the same exercise each night before I go to sleep because the power of vision is what keeps me going.
Hope and Healing Update
The release of my new book, Hope and Healing: Peaceful Parenting in an Uncertain World has been moved up to the end of October. I will keep you posted on my book signing schedule.
What topics would you like to read about in future issues of Peaceful Parenting? Drop me a line and let me know, and I will do my best to accommodate your wishes.
Naomi Drew is the author of four books, all available through LearningPeace.com:
Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids (Kensington Publishers)
Learning the Skills of Peacemaking (Jalmar Press)
The Peaceful Classroom in Action (Jalmar Press)
Hope and Healing: Peaceful Parenting in an Uncertain World will be released in October of 2002 (Kensington Publishers)
If your organization or school would like to schedule a workshop or speaking engagement, you can reach Naomi at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Love and Peace to All of You.